Twin Moon March 1, 2012

The Twin Moon will be available March first on Amazon.com, smashwords.com and allromanceebooks.com!! For $2.99! Look for Ivy’s Surprise a totally free ebook at those locations staring Saturday!! Here’s a preview!

Ian was always a ladies man, with raging hormones to sate. But lately he’s sick of the game. He wants to find his mate.

Andy is fed up and terrified of her abusive ex. Will she ever have a normal life again without him stalking her?

When Ian meets Andy the fireworks are immediate… For Ian. Andy is leary, what could this good looking surfer boy possibly want with her. She knows she’s not exactly skinny as her ex used to love to point out, but she sure as hell isn’t getting abused and lied to again!

Can this match be made in heaven or will they go through first to get there?

Tuesday blues And deadly deadlines!!

I think I got the Monday blues on Tuesday. Actually I’m not sad I’m very very happy just really tired and stressed. Trying to find the time to get Twin Moon done on time and out by March 1st. Don’t really want to push it off much longer. It such an awesome story and I really think it will be great for everyone to meet Ian and Andy, the main characters and if anyone is wondering Andy is short for Andrea.

Sorry my m/m fans this is an m/f paranormal. I will be getting to more Midnight this summer.

My college classes started back up and I have a crap load of work to do on them. Children’s lit and assessment and observation this time around. I’m just thankful it’s not math and English 102 this semester! Those are next semester. In the fall. I’m skipping summer classes this year so I can write. Think I’ll start in September or October so I can have some time on my books. I write and edit so slow. I don’t mean to, but I agonize over my books. I want them to be as close to perfect as I can make them.

Feral Desire first book in the Chiricahua Saga should be out in the Fall. It needs a bunch of work and my time. Soon though soon.

Ian however is a great guy and is so madly in love with Andy it’s not even funny. He’s pushing too to get his story out. His blond and looks like a surfer with brown eyes. He’s a natural lady’s man. Andy on the other hand is beautiful with dark curly hair and pale skin. And has a fetish for fetish shoes. If u don’t know what type of shoes those are here is a pick of her fav pair.

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Here’s a little sneak peek!

Ian was always a ladies man, with raging hormones to sate. But lately he’s sick of the game. He wants to find his mate.

Andy is fed up and terrified of her abusive ex. Will she ever have a normal life again without him stalking her?

When Ian meets Andy the fireworks are immediate… For Ian. Andy is leary, what could this good looking surfer boy possibly want with her. She knows she’s not exactly skinny as her ex used to love to point out, but she sure as hell isn’t getting abused and lied to again!

Can this match be made in heaven or will they go through first to get there?

Trillium blogging

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Respect and Trust

I was looking at old photos from my childhood last night and remembered how little respect my father had for my mother. Oh, he never hit her, he just belittled her. His camera was constantly focused on young, pretty and plastic women. In fact, there’s no photos of my high school graduation because he used up all his film on the other, prettier, girls.

(At the time I thought they were prettier. Looking back, I can see that was one of the many messages my father stuffed into my head that were wrong.)

I never learned to ask for respect. I put my trust in men who would never be able to respect me (alcoholics, abusers, etc.) and then was astounded when that trust was broken. Soon, I learned not to trust men.

Because I didn’t respect and trust myself.

This was long before I knew BDSM existed.

To an outside observer at a dungeon or play party, it might seem like there’s no respect at all between people who are flogging, piercing, or demanding service from each other. But the observer would be wrong.

For the submissive, trust is everything. He or she needs to know that the dom/master respects them for who they are so they can put their bodies and minds in his/her care.

The dominant needs the respect and the trust that the submissive gives him or her of their own free will. If that dynamic, the power exchange of trust, respect and some form of love, isn’t there, it can easily turn into another abusive relationship.

How about your relationships? Are they brimming over with respect, trust and love? Or is there something missing?

Leave a comment below to let us know your thoughts.

Thanks again, Buffy, for letting me speak to your audience!

Sugar Shock

Anyone else having post Valentine’s sugar shock? I think I didn’t have enough. Yesterday hubby bought this giant marshmallow chocolate covered thing. No joke this thing had 4 giant marshmallows covered in chocolate and in pink buttercream frosting it said Love. I ate it in two sitting. People my chocolate levels are dangerously low!! But one of the girls at work had a bday and we got her a beautiful chocolate cake.

I try to eat healthy but chocolate is my downfall.

History of Valentines with R. Ann Siracusa

WILL THE REAL SAINT VALENTINE PLEASE STAND UP?
Finding out about the origins of our holidays and celebrations can sometimes be a real buzz-kill. So often they turn out to be something different that we’ve always believed or been taught.

Still, it doesn’t hurt to be informed, and that doesn’t need to spoil the holiday for you. I find that in ways adults are just like children: If they want to believe something, they believe it, no matter what you tell them or how convincing your proof is.

So just keep on believing that Valentine’s Day is all about romance, love, and fealty.

Earliest Link
In the ancient Greek calendar, mid-January to mid-February was the month of Gamelion, dedicated to the sacred marriage of the god Zeus and the goddess Hera. That appears to be the earliest link to February festivals.

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Lupercalia
Yup. We’re back to the Romans again. Lupercalia, an archaic rite connected to fertility and local to the city of Rome, was celebrated February 13 thru 15. The more general Roman celebration was called Juno Februa (“Juno the Purifier” or “The Chaste Juno”), February 13 and 14.

It appears that the purpose of the festival and the rituals are a bit obscured by time, but one historian describes the rite in the following manner:

“Celebrated at the ides of February, or February 15, Lupercalia was a fertility festival dedicated to Faunus, the Roman god of agriculture, as well as to the Roman founders Romulus and Remus.

To begin the festival, members of the Luperci, an order of Roman priests, would gather at a sacred cave where the infants Romulus and Remus, the founders of Rome, were believed to have been cared for by a she-wolf or lupa. The priests would sacrifice a goat, for fertility, and a dog, for purification. They would then strip the goat’s hide into strips, dip them into the sacrificial blood and take to the streets, gently slapping both women and crop fields with the goat hide.

Far from being fearful, Roman women welcomed the touch of the hides because it was believed to make them more fertile in the coming year. Later in the day, according to legend, all the young women in the city would place their names in a big urn. The city’s bachelors would each choose a name and become paired for the year with his chosen woman. These matches often ended in marriage.”

Some historians, including Noel Lenski, University of Colorado at Boulder, depict the rites as a bit more brutal than “gently slapping” and indicate the pairing was only for the duration of the festival, not a year, although sometimes the couplings lasted for longer. I guess this is where the idea of “love” and “romance” comes from.

Although the festival survived the rise of Christianity, around the end of the fifth century Pope Gelasius I determined to put an end to this eight-hundred-year-old practice of Lupercalia. The Roman Catholic fathers eventually found a likely candidate to replace the pagan deities, a priest who had been martyred on February 14, 269 A.D. The Pope outlawed Lupercalia as “unchristian” and replaced it with a celebration honoring the martyr St. Valentine.

Combining Lupercalia with St. Valentine’s Day apparently toned down the pagan festival, but Lenski adds, “It was a little more of a drunken revel, but the Christians put clothes back on it. That didn’t stop it from being a day of fertility and love.”

Who was St. Valentine?
Good question. That’s not too clear, either, but historians agree there was nothing romantic in any of the histories of the three early Christian martyrs (recognized saints) named Valentine (Valentinus). To complicate things, two of the Saint Valentines were executed on February 14 but in different years of the third century.

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● Valentine of Rome (Valentinus presb. m. Romae) was a priest in Rome who was martyred about AD 269 and was buried on the Via Flaminia. His relics are at the Church of Saint Praxed in Rome, and at Whitefriar Street Carmelit Church in Dublin, Ireland. Not much else about him is documented, and what we know for sure isn’t very romantic.

The legend, however, spices it up, telling us that when Emperor Claudius II decided that single men made better soldiers than those with wives and families and, therefore, outlawed marriage for young men. Valentine defied the Emperor’s decree and continued to perform marriages for young lovers in secret. When this was discovered, he was put to death on February 14, 269 (Some sources say the year 270 or 273 A.D.).

Some references indicate that Valentine’s cause to unite lovers with holy vows of matrimony landed him in prison, which is likely to be true. During his incarceration, he struck up a friendship with the blind daughter of his jailer, Asterius. (In one version of the legend, he miraculously restored her sight). Supposedly, they exchanged love letters and on the day of his execution (February 14th, 269 A.D.), he left a final letter for his love and signed it “From your Valentine.”

Still another variation recounts that Claudius took a liking to this prisoner – until Valentinus tried to convert the Emperor to Christianity – whereupon he condemned the priest to death. Valentine was beaten with clubs and stoned. When that failed to kill him, he was beheaded outside the Flaminian Gate.

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● Valentine of Terni (Valentinus ep. Interamnensis m. Romae) was bishop of Interamna (Modern Terni) about AD 197 and is said to have been martyred during the persecution under Emperor Aurelian.

He is also buried on the Via Flaminia, but in a different location than Valentine of Rome. His relics are at the Basilica of Saint Valentine in Terni. There doesn’t seem to be much more known about him.

● A third saint named Valentine is mentioned in the Catholic Encyclopedia, also executed on the date of February 14. He was martyred in Africa, along with companions, but nothing else is known about him, either.

When did February 14 become associated with romance and love?
Again, the real history is fuzzy. After Pope Gelasius I did away with Lupercalia, young Roman men instituted the custom of offering greetings of affection to the women they wanted court on February 14. These cards soon acquired St. Valentine’s name.

By the Middles Ages, Christianity and the Saint Valentine legends had spread throughout Europe. Valentine was revered as one of the most popular Saints in England and France. It appears that the first written reference to Valentine’s Day in the romantic sense, is a poem in Parlement of Foules (1382) by Geoffrey Chaucer, to honor the engagement of King Richard II to Anne of Bohemia.

“For this was on seynt Volantynys day
Whan euery bryd comyth there to chese his make.”

["For this was Saint Valentine's Day, when every bird cometh there to choose his mate."]

The treaty providing for the marriage was signed May 2, 1381, and Richard and Anne were married eight months later. (Both of them were only fifteen at the time). While many assumed Chaucer meant February 14 in his reference to Valentine’s Day, in fact, in the liturgical calendar, May 2 is the saint’s day for St. Valentine, the bishop of Genoa who died around 307 A.D. Not too many birds mate in February.

On February 14, 1400, Paris established a “High Court of Love” which addressed love contracts, betrayals, and violence against women. I only found one reference to this and couldn’t find out more about it or its significance.

The earliest surviving valentine card, as we know it, was written in 1415 by Charles, Duke of Orleans to his wife. It now resides in the British Library in London.

Je suis desja d’amour tanné
Ma tres doulce Valentinée…
—Charles d’Orléans, Rondeau VI, lines 1–2

Not many years later, King Henry V hired writer John Lydgate to compose a valentine note to Catherine of Valois.

Shakespeare mentions Valentine’s Day in Hamlet (1600-1601).

In the sixteenth century, the Bishop of Geneva, St. Francis de Sales, tried to get rid of the custom of Valentine’s Day cards and failed. Their popularity grew and they became decorated with naked Cupids armed with arrows dipped in love potion.

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In North America, people began exchanging hand-made valentines in the early 1700s, and in 1840, artist Esther A. Howland, known as the Mother of the Valentine, began selling the first mass-produced valentines in the United States.

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And the rest is history. Well, actually, it’s all history.

Stop by and see Ann at her blog!

References

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Valentine%27s_Day

http://www.history.com/topics/valentines-day

http://www.ehow.com/about_4759730_origin-valentines-day.html

http://grove.ufl.edu/~leo/val.html

http://www.npr.org/2011/02/14/133693152/the-dark-origins-of-valentines-day

Happiness Reclaimed

So. Today I am doing house work and working on edits. I decide to blog a bit, cuz I just miss ya’ll.

It has occurred to me after being pointed out by David Prince in FB that I was heading down a wrong highway in the opposite direction of traffic. Why is this a bad thing? Because it works against my happiness. I refuse to allow others to control my happiness. I mean really? Who do people think they are that they can’t just dick with my world, my existence? I tell u I have a happy year planned.

I get to see my baby girl go to prom, graduate and start college this year. I am a proud momma. That alone is worth being happy.

I have a type 1 diabetic son that is healthy as a damn horse! His blood sugar is mostly controlled, you can’t really completely control something like that. And he’s a damn good kid and a smart kid even if he does hate school.

My hubby although has recently been found to have a bump on his thyroid, is so healthy otherwise and good to me, that I am spoiled rotten. He never stops me from expressing myself or abuses me in anyway. And he’s smart, witty and funny. How many people can say that about their significant other?

So my happiness will be a reflection of my family. I am successful and holding my own in life and I’m damn proud of myself for that. Happiness will prevail despite evil peoples works to take my life in other directions.

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