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Sex and Love

Is it true u can have sex without love? Well yeah. Any one can shut off their emotions and just fuck. People have been doing that for hundreds of years. That why there r arranged marriages and people have affairs. So what are they looking for do u think? Maybe they need someone to hold them? Someone to make them feel beautiful or handsome? Maybe they r just trying to procreate? Makes u wonder doesn’t it? If u had an affair what would ur reasons be? Are they strong enough to invoke u to take that final step and not look back? People do it all the time.

As for me I don’t think I could. I’m pretty happy in general and consider myself a positive person. Beside Karma would more than likely bite my ass and I’d end up on the receiving end of a divorce. So what do u do? Find some way that makes u attractive? Find someway that will turn u on? Maybe ur doing it wrong? Try a different position. By the Kama Sutra. Get kinky. There is a lot of information on the Internet about kink and website that can help. Try tumblr. There r sex blogs on there as far as the eye can see. And what about kink? Kink is usually the thing that pushes ur comfort zone the most. Some people like to be Daddy’s girl, or kitties or dress up in leather and be chained. Would u consider it of it meant saving ur relationship? Would u be open to the option of involving others? Just some things to think about this lovely Sunday Morning.

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Pushing those Sexual Boundaries

Have u ever wondered why people get into BDSM? What’s it about? Fear? Pain? Humiliation? For some it is, but ultimately it’s about pushing ur sexual boundaries. How much can i take? Will I break? Am I flexible enough to endure? These are all questions we ask ourselves on a daily basis about daily struggles. A Dom or Domme’s job is to find ur boundaries and push them as far as u can go without hurting u physically, emotionally and mentally.

In my book Bound by Darkness Lila has her boundaries pushed by Simon, however he does it in the wrong way. He doesn’t care if he hurts her he’s on concern is his own pleasure. A real Dom or Domme is concerned about ur pleasure. What turns you on and how to keep u on the razors edge, teetering between losing control and the ultimate sexual pleasure.

For most people it is when they finally give up that control that they find release. Tension melts out of them, stress of the real world fades away and they are suddenly living moment to moment without any cares at all. When u reach that place, a place you have never been before ur ultimate desires are possible. And usually, if they let you, u will orgasm harder than you ever have in ur life.

So what part does fear play? Pushing boundaries is not easy. What are u most frightened of? Being still? The belt? Is there a childhood fear that u need to work out. This is where ur Dom or Domme can help u. Have a conversation tell them ur worries. A real Dom or Domme will welcome this information and use it to help u through this roadblock.

Sometimes things that happen to us as children create a space for us to explore as adults. Being afraid isn’t the end all be all or your life. Now is the time to explore who u are and what u want. Being hyper aware of ur needs and wants is something everyone should be in tune with. Only then can u release ur fear and find ur freedom, sexually or otherwise.

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Why Write Gay Paranormal

It occurred to me many people may be wondering why do I write hetero paranormal and gay paranormal. Today I thought I would give you the run down.

First, when you write you must write about what you like, what interests you and take into account what will sale. A lot of authors believe if you write for the market you could soon be dead in the water. I don’t believe this is true. I think that if you make an effort to see what your market is, who your readers are and what they want to read you will be better able to develop a readership and a positive relationship with your readers. I love the paranormal and am fascinated by vampires and were creatures. I have loved vampires since the Count on sesame street.

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Since then I have read Anne Rice, JR Ward, Susan Squires, Christine Feehan and Susan Sizemore and anyone else I can find. I have read thousands of books that do with vampires and hundreds that deal with were creatures. I enjoy these authors and others immensely and highly recommend them if your looking for new reads. It’s called research. You must know what you are up against. Even in ebooks.

Second, I write Hetero sex because it’s what I know. I’ve been married 17 years and started dating and having sex three years before that. I’ve tried everything within reason from BDSM to missionary. It occurs to me, however, as long as you have a resource with experience you do not have to have the personal experience if you have done your research.

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Third, and a however, you must be careful. I wrote a book called Bound by Darkness. This is not a paranormal romance. It is a paranormal horror that contains two really evil bad guys that tweak BDSM and use it in a not nice way. This book has received high reviews, a top pick review from Night Owl Reviews, a 4.5 from Romance Junkies and a 4 from Coffee Time Romance, but it hasn’t sold so well because the BDSM is not used in a loving, traditional way and was marketed as paranormal romance.
The lesson here is be careful how you advertise.

Fourth, gay paranormal romance.

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I write Gay paranormal romance because it fascinates me. I love the dynamic of the relationship, the things you can do with the paranormal creatures and the worlds you can build.

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I am a big supporter or GLBT rights. They are the same as everyone else and need to be treated equally, honestly, is it 1950?? The fact that the government is getting involved in the bedroom is just absurd. It’s about Love people not hate, wake up! As out as some people are there is still a huge amount if GLBT individuals that are in the closet or terrified to come out because of the bullying and abuse that has become prevalent and associated with this way of life and, by the way, you are born this way. I wrote gay romance to support my fellow man, woman and everyone in between. Please stop the inequality and bullying.

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Last, I think that being open to alternative lifestyles can open your mind to new worlds, cultures and issues that surround them. Teach your kids love and happiness, not hate. Families are what we make them, not what we perceive as the norm. What is normal anyway? Socially acceptability is bullshit. Be yourself, live free and happy.